To Talk or Not To Talk
To talk, or not to talk during a massage; that is the question.
Actually, it is the wrong question and this is the reason why.
When I’m out and about, people naturally ask me questions about massage, muscles, their sore neck and this weird thing that their thumb has doing since that fall… all sorts of things. And I am happy to chat, discuss what you can do for your stiff neck and suggest a professional if needed for that unusual injury.
A friend recently asked me how much are you meant to talk during a massage? What is the rule here? How much chit chat does a massage therapist want?
It’s not an unexpected question, as I have heard of some massage therapists sharing how they tell their clients to shush, or on the flip side how hard it is to get people to open up.
But Woah, Nelly! That’s a great, big, nasty red flag waving in front of my eyes!
And this is why it is the wrong question.
We are all different beings. And we all respond to our environment in different ways. We all relax and calm down in different ways.
I have some clients who barely utter a word during their massage treatment. Outside of medical necessities, I barely know a personal fact about them. Which is totally OK as long as they walk out feeling their needs were met. People who talk all day in their job, and introverts in particular, can find chit chat exhausting. Having to make small talk distracts them from the joy of shutting out the world while they calm their central nervous system. To be given the freedom to connect with another person without small talk is absolutely heavenly for some.
I have other clients who talk like they are a solar charged toy bunny on a sunny day; it doesn’t take long for me to hear the details of their life history. Yet at the end, they report how much better and relaxed they feel. Some people can’t relax until they feel a personal connection with their massage therapist. And some extraverts can’t unwind until they get all the thoughts bouncing around in their head out of their head.
And then there’s the combination person. The one who begins with talking a mile a minute, and then suddenly, they stop. Their breathing changes. There may or may not be an occasional snuffle or snore-like sound of contentment and deep relaxation. And I know I have helped them to switch off, to shift from riled up to relaxed. By the way, snores, tummy gurgles and crazy post-massage hair are all positive signs to a massage therapist.
The key thing is it doesn’t matter if I want you to talk a lot or not at all once your massage has started. It is about what makes you comfortable. My only requirement is that you give me feedback about pressure or if an area is painful to help me give you the best possible massage experience. And we do need to consult before your massage starts to plan the best treatment for you on that particular day.

It makes me sad to hear some massage therapists have a talking or no talking rule. If yours says you MUST talk more or be silent, it might be time to find a more accommodating therapist. One who is willing to tune into your individual needs, not just make their own day comfortable.
If “to talk to not to talk” is the wrong question, then what is the right question?
I believe the right question is “will my massage therapist care either way if I am feeling chatty or not today?” Or maybe even “do they care about my needs or am I just getting a one size fits all treatment?”
I wonder, are you the Silent Client? The Chatty Chiller? Or are you more of a Massage Mood Mixer?
Ready to book a massage? You can quietly book online at a time that suits you, or get in touch if you’d like to talk a little more before an appointment.

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Studies have shown the positive impact on lowering blood pressure, reducing feelings of anxiety and depression, and improved quality of sleep. I have also used traditional relaxation techniques to help within a remedial massage to gently help people move more freely. In our increasingly distant society where we use our online profiles to keep physical distance, I believe even the element of human connection within a massage has immense benefit.
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It is a great phrase I’ve been hearing a lot in the last year. I remember being surprised during the early days of parenthood when, exhausted from endless nights and days of no sleep, I kept going. I had such a massive physical and emotional stress overload, but somehow, I pulled the energy from who knows where and tended to the needs of my babies. Being a carer is like that. Your cup gets empty and yet you pull it from somewhere to plod on. But what comes out of that drained cup is only the dregs. When we are recharged and our cup is full, what we pour is of such better quality leaving us to truly care for those in our care.

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I will ask you to complete a Medical History Form primarily to ensure that whatever happens in the treatment room will be safe and appropriate for you individually. The other reason is sometimes a random event in your past can have implications to what’s happening today. That broken ankle you had years ago could be a factor in why you experience hip pain recently. ALL your information is kept private. There is a reason I won’t ask you publicly later on how your specific health concern is going; I’m not unfeeling or have forgotten, I’m just not prepared to discuss your details if others can overhear.
Before we start massaging, I will invite you to take a seat so we can chat privately about your medical history. This is in order to clarify any details or we even can add to it (you’d be surprised how many people forget major life events until we start chatting).
People usually expect they will lie down on a massage table to receive a massage. Most of the time they do but massage can also happen when seated or using a combination of laying on your front, back, side or seated. I usually ask you to remove some clothing for a massage where you are laying on the massage table, but only within your comfort level and only after I have left the room. Undies always stay on and if we are only working a part of your body, it may be appropriate to leave some of your other clothes on.
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If you are comfortable to remove your bra as you are getting onto the treatment table, great. If you are not so comfortable, that’s cool too. I will either work around it or unclasp temporarily if I need access to where the straps lay. For complicated clasps and all over sports bras it will usually be best for you to remove or leave them at home if we are treating your back.
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I am referring to the high number of people who are having procedures and taking medication without knowing why and what the side effects are. I’ve watched people get bumped around from expert to expert and blindly following the latest “thing” without being involved in the conversation. I’ve seen people taking the blue, white, brown and yellow pills without knowing what any of them are for. The blue, white, brown and yellow pills might all be very important, but wouldn’t it be nice to be empowered enough to know why you even take them? And also to know that they aren’t counteracting each other’s hard work in the battle ground of your body?
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3. Just Say No. This one is really hard, but should be the easiest of them all. Here is an important newsflash: You don’t actually have to go to every Christmas party. Truly! If you have 3 pre-Christmas events on the same night, IT IS OK TO ONLY GO TO THE ONE! Or even none if you are tired from your parties the day or week before. No explanations needed. Just a simple “I’m sorry I can’t make it, have fun” is all that is required. And each event doesn’t have to be the function to end all functions. Apparently moderation is the key to longevity.
